You want to be happy. So does everyone else. But did you know that happiness will elude you if you surround yourself with people who are habitually unhappy?
Happiness is not a state you can reach overnight, but you certainly will find a world of difference when you cut-off or limit your time with negative people.
What difference is that?
- You will have increased confidence in yourself
- You will attract like-minded, positive people
- You will learn about talents you never knew you have
- Life will never be boring again.
How do you know when to cut-off unhealthy relationships?
You choose your friends. You feed off whatever energy the relationship gives off. Sometimes, it’s hard to figure out when a relationship is bad for you. Taking action can save you hours and hours of misspent energy.
Be honest to yourself. Take action. Enjoy the freedom.
You may not realise, but friendships may form from negative roots over time. You may have your own reasons for getting close to someone—loneliness, hard times, physical attraction with nothing else in common, desire to learn something new—but as time goes by, you may find that you no longer have anything in common to with this person. You feel like you owe it to this person to listen to their negativity and complaining just because they had stuck with you through your hard times.
Ask yourself, “Why am I still friends with this person?”
If your answer is anything other than for reasons like they make you laugh, support you, love you, motivate or inspire you or encourage you, it’s time to say goodbye.
- Your time is precious—life is not forever.
Offer your time to those who deserve your presence, who you want to share your life with and who makes you happy.
- Its OK to let go of childhood friendships.
Childhood friendships are steeped in history. That’s what makes you hold on to them. But, everyone grow up, form different opinions, beliefs and interests. What you had shared at school is not necessarily what you will share in the future, so withdrawing from old friends is not a loss but a step forward into the future.
- Negative relationships affect your health.
Negativity projected from others affects us the same way as negativity within ourselves. Negative people often want to bring others down with them. Their lives are not your responsibility so withdraw and spend time with people that lift your spirits and make you laugh.
- Assess and repair wounded friendships for better health.
You would find yourself happier when you strive to be on good terms with all people in your life. Unresolved issues make it hard to forgive and forget. But when you start connecting again, the healing process begins. This improves your wellbeing. A birthday card or an email to say you’re thinking of them could be enough. Time is a healer but life can be short. You would be a happier person in knowing that the important people in your life know that you care about them.
- Establish new friendships slowly.
New friendships can be very exciting but be cautious with how open and trusting you are. You are fooling yourself if you imagine that everyone is as genuine and as honest as you.
- Positivity = more friendships.
You are attracted to positive people because they make you feel good.